Sunday, November 8, 2009

Growing Pains

I guess at some point or another, we all have to grow up. Lately, I've been stepping back, and letting my eldest, A.R become more independent. He's almost ten years old, and it's about time he learns how to do things for himself. I don't want my kids to be spoiled, and think that everything will be done for them. I would like them to value hard work, and give them a sense of pride for the work that they do. That is why I've been giving A.R a few responsibilities; like taking out the green bin and blue box for recycling, washing dishes, folding his own clothes, and putting them away. I think what worries me the most is the fact that young boys are easily distracted nowadays with computer and video games, and falling behind in academics more than girls. Although, A.R doesn't fall into that category - I must say he does exceptionally well in school. We give him incentives to succeed in his school and guitar recitals. Rewards and encouragement are big in our household. It's the attitude, and behaviour issues we have to keep in check. Kids think they can say, and do anything they please without showing any signs of respect and consideration. I hate to admit it but I do have high expectations for him. I try not to put too much pressure on him when it comes to his studies, and music lessons. I can see the anxiety taking its toll on him - he bites his fingernails, and that's not only a bad habit but a warning sign that there is pressure on him. At times, I feel I am nagging him to perform a certain task, chore or a simple request. I think there will always be a growing concern that he won't be focused, and he'll keep distant and quiet. It can be frustrating at times, however, I stick to the program and keep him in line whenever he acts up. Parenting isn't easy but I always try to do my best! I'll be happy if my boys will turn out to be well-educated, successful, and productive men in the future. It seems like a long road ahead of us; yet the teenage years are just around the corner! It's critical I maintain good parenting skills, encouragement and love for my boys. I know I have to surround them with positive male role models, and provide them with the tools to be independent adults.

~ This piece was inspired after I had spent an evening out with my brother. We had a great conversation on the way to the movies, and eventually touched on the topic of parenting. I never thought I'd have this discussion with him! It was great!~

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