Saturday, September 22, 2012

The Talk

How does your child cope with disappointment?

My youngest is still having trouble dealing with setbacks, and he's nine years old.

I know there have been a lot of changes this September - attending a French Immersion school, meeting new people, making new friends and learning a new language. I understand he's going through a period of adjustment.

However, he's been having a meltdown almost every day!

Not typical behaviour for my son.

And no excuse for it!

Yesterday, I had the talk with him.

Here we go again!

I told J.P I wasn't happy with this behaviour. Whether he loses a Yu-Gi-Oh card game, didn't have enough computer time or didn't get a chance to play table tennis. He would lash out, whine and cry.

I'd say he was acting like a spoiled brat!

But I told him he was acting more like a toddler and that he was no longer one.

I went on to say that life isn't always fair, and that there will be disappointments. There are some things beyond your control, and you have to accept what ever happens.

Too deep? Perhaps.

In simpler terms, I recounted my attempts to get Johnny Depp's autograph at TIFF. I explained the crowds were just too overwhelming. Although, I was two feet away from him, I still couldn't get his signature. I was very disappointed but at least I saw him in person! Who knows when Johnny will come back to the film festival? It could be years!

J.P listened quietly as I told him my sad tale.

Sniff. Sniff. Sniff.

Did I make a connection with J.P? I hope so.

Or else, Mr.O will have to do the talking.